by Philippe Lewis
Thank you for your trust. Like for many women, I get that it might not be easy to allow a man to get close to you, to touch you or have sex with you, that it is a big deal to let me in because even though you've developed amazing discernment skills to figure out which man is for real and which man isn't, there's still a chance a man will come in under the radar and take something from you because he feels entitled to your body or your heart. I get it's not easy to tell if I'm one of those men or not, regardless of what I say or do.
Thank you for allowing me to show you that I am willing to slow down, to let you decide if or when you are ready for touch or sex or kissing or any other commitment in body heart and mind by not pressuring you to do any of it and by not reacting badly when you say you're not ready yet or when your body goes quiet even in the middle of a hot moment together. Your pace -- around body, around sex, around any commitment you make -- is perfect. And while i might choose to share my desires, I will do so in such as way that you know that my happiness does not depend on you and your choices and your pace. In fact, my desires and pleasure should never come at the expense of your freedom.
Thank you for sharing where you're at, your pace, your desires, your boundaries. I get that for many women it takes tremendous courage to say what you want, and even more to receive it, especially after having been with so many men who could not -- at least at times if not always -- care for anything other than their own desires and entitlement for it. So when I approach you and ask you for what you want, I get that it might seem suspicious that I would enjoy your pleasure for its own sake, because I know how precious it is for you to have it, and that it is a privilege to be there to support you in having it, and an honor to witness you getting it. And thank you for the clarity you bring around you and what you are made of when you can muster it as it allows me to be more present to you and your needs and your desires.
Thank you for your opening, for your yes, for your feedback, for your deep surrender, for the deep lasting power of your unfolding freedom. They tell me my service makes a difference in you, they tell me that I'm doing a good job, they tell me I'm worthy of your willingness to let me support you. I get that a lot of women have been, are, and will be betrayed, objectified, oppressed by men they have opened up to and been vulnerable to. I get that to do so with me takes a leap of faith for which I'm grateful and willing to rise up to with my own openness and vulnerability.
Thank you for being human and being a woman rising up in power and freedom and for blazing inspiring trails for other women to follow. Thank you for sharing your tears and your struggles and challenges. The more you share, the more of you I see and feel and support, the more of you I get to hold and care and consider, the more of you I get to honor.
But beyond all that, thank you for your trust. It is one of the greatest gift you can offer, one that I promise to hold with care, gratitude, and honor.
by Philippe Lewis
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Philippe Lewis is a Sex & Intimacy Coach, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Sensual Healer, and Event Producer. For the last 18 years, he has been exploring relationships, intimacy, sensuality and sexuality with individuals and communities through teaching, writing, coaching and (sexy) events with the goal of growing men and women into better lovers and better humans. He is a father, a lover, a partner, a husband, a teacher, a producer, a writer, a social artist, a social engineer, a coach, a counselor, and many more. His love for life is as polyamorous as his love life and sex life.