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CLASS: Conversations between Anxious and Avoidant

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CLASS: Conversations between Anxious and Avoidant

Join us for a candid conversation on the topic of Anxious & Avoidant relating, and tips to help you understand your partners and loved ones.

Paget and I have been together for almost two decades (as of 2023) and we’re happy to share the awareness, maturity, security and wisdom we’ve gained over the years in a warm conversational-style meeting.

Bring your own experience, tips, tricks, stories to the table, come share with everyone else how you failed, how you made it work, what you learned.

Each session will have a loose focus (the reality of anxious, then avoidant, then mixing the two together), but we will be happy to hold the container for any and all topics connected to attachment theory, especially if they focus on the dance of anxious and avoidant.

Read on below for logistics. The sessions are by donation (or free if this is best for you) if you find the information you get out of it useful.

Session 1 : The reality of the Anxious

Session 2: The reality of the Avoidant

Session 3: The reality of the relationship between the two

Keep in mind that this is more of a candid or "fireside" conversation with a bit of leading on our part. We hope some of it will be useful. 

If you find the conversation useful, feel free to send a donation of any amount via Venmo to @exquisiteheartlove

or PayPal to love@exquisite.love

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PODCAST: From Anxious + Avoidant Into Secure + Sovereign (Shamanic Tantra Podbast

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PODCAST: From Anxious + Avoidant Into Secure + Sovereign (Shamanic Tantra Podbast

Recently I had an incredible conversation with Holly Turiya about attachment theory and the journey to earning at secure attachment style.

As you can imagine, this journey can be long and full of challenges, and truly depends on the template of everyone’s nervous system as they grow up, and each person’s propensity to use coping mechanisms to best handle these situations.

How might the Journey to Secure look for someone with each of the main attachment styles?
Join Holly and I to find out!

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PODCAST: The Journey to Secure - Creating Healthy Secure Relationships (Deeper Intimacy with Amanda Biccum)

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PODCAST: The Journey to Secure - Creating Healthy Secure Relationships (Deeper Intimacy with Amanda Biccum)

In this episode Amanda and Philippe dive deep into the landscape of attachment theory, self-regulation, self-care, sense making, and self-resourcing. They will also tackle the four stages of the journey to security which will help you reach a happy and fulfilling life. Philippe is a relationship educator and founder of Exquisite Dark Love, a platform for supporting men and women in making informed choices about relationships through the practice of connection, trust, consent, intimacy, and love.

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VIDEO: Loving Our Tender Inner Parts with Philippe Lewis (The Self Love Show)

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VIDEO: Loving Our Tender Inner Parts with Philippe Lewis (The Self Love Show)

In this week’s Self Love Show, Philippe Lewis will teach us a simple process to reconnect with our most tender parts, allowing us to continue the process of reintegrating our past and deciphering the lessons and wisdom that has yet to be uncovered from it.

In working with clients over the years, Philippe has found that our most difficult and dysregulated moments can be linked to aspects of us that sometimes seem to "pull" away from us in an attempt to be felt and heard, and in an attempt to remind us of a past we have not fully integrated. These "parts" are often either: 

  1. The inner animal/primal, 

  2. The inner child (under 12), or 

  3. The inner teenager. 

This will no doubt be a a powerful hour as Philippe shares his knowledge on Attachment Theory, Self-Regulation, and Sovereignty. Not to be missed!

Philippe is a relationship educator. He created Exquisite Dark Love to support men and women in making better choices for themselves and each so they can become sovereign humans through the practice of connection, trust, consent, intimacy, love, and the exploration of attachment theory. He is the co-founder of ReMENber Brotherhood Journey, a coordinator with ISTA, the International School of Temple Arts, and a modern voice on critical thinking around morality and the integration of Masculine, Feminine, Dark, Light, and Shadow. Over the years, he founded the Open Relationship Community, the Attachment Community, and the Consent Community to support new emerging conversations on these important topics. He is also the happy father of a 9 year old boy who teaches him how to surrender to love and life more fully every day.

Facebook Wall: www.facebook.com/fuzzyp
Facebook Page: www.facebook.com/philippesimonlewis/

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VIDEO: Making Sense of Attachment Theory (Self-Love Show)

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VIDEO: Making Sense of Attachment Theory (Self-Love Show)

Ever been in relationship and noticed how you or your partner seemed to be following a sort of unspoken emotional “script” or “dance” leading you two down a path where triggers, difficulties, arguments, challenges, insecurities, and limitations seemed to get the best of you?

If you’ve been on this planet for long enough, you may have noticed that these patterns are more or less repeated for you and your partner. You’ve seen yourself enter these relationships again and again and again, always knowing that something is up but never quite knowing WHY.

Enters Attachment Theory, the remarkable view of relationships that seems to pretty much explain EVERYTHING about how people can be secure or insecure in relationship and how regardless of your attachment style you will likely be in relationship with people who are either.

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VIDEO: Social Media, AI & Attachment Theory (Yet Another F*ing Podcast)

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VIDEO: Social Media, AI & Attachment Theory (Yet Another F*ing Podcast)

Yet Another F*ing Podcast (EP 1)

Damien and I love having edgy, explorative conversations where we don't quite know where we are gonna end up. This is the field that we feel most inspired to play in.

In this episode we go on a fascinating tour through our relationship to social media, the AI algorithm that underlies it all, how it plays on our attachment theory, erotic energies... and more.

I LOVED this conversation. I felt so nourished by it.

Stay in beyond the first 10 minutes as we take off into the mystery!

You can contact Damien on his website.


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VIDEO: How Childhood Affects Life & Love (Alexandra Holovitz)

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VIDEO: How Childhood Affects Life & Love (Alexandra Holovitz)

Attachment Theory - How Childhood Affects Life & Love with Alexandra Holovitz

In this video, I had the pleasure of being interviewed by Alexandra on Attachment Theory - how childhood affects your life and love style, what are the main attachment styles and how to cope best in a relationship and move towards being more securely attached.

Topics discussed:

  • What is attachment theory is all about?

  • The 4 attachment style: Avoidant, Anxious, Disorganized, Secure

  • How the different attachment styles are behaving with one other?

  • How we can move more into conscious secure attachment?

  • How you can address your emotional needs in a relationship?

  • How can we define Secure Love?

  • Want to learn more about your own body?

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VIDEO: Secure Attachment Saturdays 2020 (Master Your Mind and Body Series)

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VIDEO: Secure Attachment Saturdays 2020 (Master Your Mind and Body Series)

Secure Attachment Saturdays

Learn more about Secure Attachment with guest expert Philippe Lewis on today's "Mind and Body Mastery Series."

In this episode of "Secure Attachment Saturdays," Mike Thomas and Philippe take you a bit deeper than week 1, exploring the developmental conditions that lead to specific attachment styles and patterns in adult relationships. As a lead-in toward a course called "The Journey To Secure," this video opens up profound inquiries related to the mystery of the human relational experience.

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CLASS: Attachment Theory: What To Do About Disinterest In Relationships

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CLASS: Attachment Theory: What To Do About Disinterest In Relationships

With my exquisite friends Bryan & Jennifer, we explore the topic of avoidance in relationships through the lens of Attachment Theory.

For the partner of an avoidant attacher, we'll cover:

★ How to bring the avoidant attacher out of their funk
★ How to detect the edge of an avoidant’s intimacy comfort zone, and avoid pushing them out of it (hint: it’s not with your mind)
★ How to create a deep fulfilling intimate relationship that is also safer for avoidant attachers

For the avoidant partner, we'll explore

★ How to safely communicate to your partner that you’re in a funk and need space (without making them worry)
★ How to share with your partner how they can safely connect with you
★ How to take your space so you can fully show up in the relationship
★ How your need for space is can be a need for time to be with yourself (and how to use this time effectively)
★ Discovering your emotional pace so you can share about it without shame and your partner can be with you on the journey.

For both partners, we'll look at:

★ The (sometimes slow and courageous) journey to a secure attachment style
★ The emotional and somatic dance of attachment styles
★ The true gift of each attachment style

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PODCAST: Attachment Theory (Ready for Love Radio)

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PODCAST: Attachment Theory (Ready for Love Radio)

Ready for Love Radio

I'm beyond excited to be on the show with the amazing Love Coach Nikki Leigh. Don't miss it! We'll be exploring attachment theory, various types of intelligence, the importance of touch in our lives and relationships and much more will be included in this podcast and my discussion with Nikki Leigh. It will be fun to see where we go with it!

Some of the other topics we'll discuss:

- What prompted me to get into a relationship and sex related field
- What is the main focus of my work
- The 7 intelligences that I've identified
- What is attachment theory?
- What are the types of attachment styles?
- How does this relate to a person’s relationship needs?

Join us on the journey!

Here's the link or click the image!

http://www.readyforloveradio.com/attachmenttheory/

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