9 Ways To Support Partners Who Are Sexual Violence Survivors

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9 Ways To Support Partners Who Are Sexual Violence Survivors

Sexual abuse and assault can happen to anyone. Most often, we hear about it happening between partners, but what is the best course of action when we hear that our partner was just assaulted or that they reveal to us that they have a history of trauma or abuse? For most couples, this is a challenging situation rife with triggers and hurt. This list is a simple way to begin the support process with a partner who needs it. Each item could be a blog post unto itself. If you require further support, please contact me or any other mental health professional directly.

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How To Show Up For The #MeToo Movement

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How To Show Up For The #MeToo Movement

It seems like everywhere the #metoo movement is leaving men wondering what to do – which is not surprising given that men like to DO things. Sometimes, of course, the incessant doing of men can get in the way and camouflage a feeling of inadequacy or a need to get attention. However, there are men out there who are truly seeing how much work there is to do and are simply ready, willing, and (hopefully somewhat) able to take action, and just need a sense of direction. Because, while this article may be preaching to a choir of clear conscious healthy men (as opposed to their pale substitute, the Sensitive New Age Guy, or SNAG or other types – and then again, even conscious men are apparently committing assault), there’s a multitude of men who are just waking up and looking to make a responsible and healthy difference.

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PODCAST: Emotional Intelligence - Ready For Love Radio

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PODCAST: Emotional Intelligence - Ready For Love Radio

Emotional Intelligence is one those things that can be really confusing – mainly because emotions are just so… confusing -- to those for whom emotional intelligence and empathy are skills they are developing. For many people, however -- and this is especially true of women who culturally are more likely to get the practice needed to develop emotional intelligence and empathy -- emotions are as easy to navigate as movement is easy to navigate to a dancer (who, incidentally, tend to be somatically intelligent). Mothers also often just feel what their children need in a way that is often mysterious to men. Women's Intuition is also a way that we sometimes refer to emotional intelligence and empathy. 

On this show, my friend Nikki and I will try to unravel some of the mysteries around emotions and emotional intelligence.  The questions we discuss are listed below.

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CLASS: Fifty Shades of Yes: A class about collaborative co-created consent

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CLASS: Fifty Shades of Yes: A class about collaborative co-created consent

Recorded at the Hawaii Tantra Festival 2017

This recording begins about 1/3rd of the class in, after the initial connection exercises that involved walking around being a yes, a maybe, and a no (without specific actions required by the participants)

A lot of lessons can be learned when we can consider that someone's "yes" can change from moment to moment, and when we have to remain curious about someone's feelings, pace, desires and boundaries as time goes by. 

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PODCAST: Evolved Masculine Podcast: Being "Unfuckwithtable" with Destin Gerek

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PODCAST: Evolved Masculine Podcast: Being "Unfuckwithtable" with Destin Gerek

In this episode, Destin Gerek and I discuss the path to becoming a leader. We dive deeply into discussions of Patriarchy and how it affects men as well as women. We discuss the "Unfuckwithable State" and the journey that they, as well as many men who are rewiring their programming surrounding masculinity, have gone through. Philippe speaks about connecting to the inner child and the inner animal, and how it can help with the practice of embodiment.

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PODCAST: Attachment Theory - Ready for Love Radio

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PODCAST: Attachment Theory - Ready for Love Radio

I'm beyond excited to be on the show with the amazing Love Coach Nikki Leigh. Don't miss it! We'll be exploring attachment theory, various types of intelligence, the importance of touch in our lives and relationships and much more will be included in this podcast and my discussion with Nikki Leigh. It will be fun to see where we go with it!

Some of the other topics we'll discuss:

- What prompted me to get into a relationship and sex related field
- What is the main focus of my work
- The 7 intelligences that I've identified
- What is attachment theory?
- What are the types of attachment styles?
- How does this relate to a person’s relationship needs?

Join us on the journey!

Here's the link or click the image!

http://www.readyforloveradio.com/attachmenttheory/

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Men, Your Erection Is Not A Sacred Cow

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Men, Your Erection Is Not A Sacred Cow

MEN, YOUR ERECTION IS NOT A SACRED COW

(PS: AND BLUE BALLS ARE A POOR EXCUSE FOR WANTING SEX)

Our society has evolved you to think that your erection is a sacred thing.

When you are hard, women are told that something needs to happen: you need to be pleasured, touched, you need to fuck, hump, grind. Everyone has to do something about it.

When you are soft, it apparently means you're not interested or that the person who is with you is not doing something right, not hot enough, not touching you right, not doing what you want in bed. It's someone else's fault.

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6 Sensational Steps to Awaken your Sensuality (Lucidity Festival Blog)

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6 Sensational Steps to Awaken your Sensuality (Lucidity Festival Blog)

There is a sensual animal in all of us, waiting to be awakened. Quite often this totemic intelligence becomes inhibited from expressing itself through us, because we can grow up with very mixed signals about touch. Touch is always a sensation, and yet often, our experiences can lead us to developing mixed signals about the inherent pleasure of touch and touching. Sometimes we need practices to rewrite our relationship to touch, so that we can expand the fluency of our ability to communicate with it, and thus, to expand the quality of our social and intimate interactions.

 

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5 Sensual Steps to Unlock the Meaning of Touch (Lucidity Festival Blog)

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5 Sensual Steps to Unlock the Meaning of Touch (Lucidity Festival Blog)

For many of us, touch is both something we seek, and something which, perhaps due to unpleasant experiences, we avoid. Unravelling the hidden meanings we associate both with our touching others and with our being touched by others can open us to new possibilities in our enjoyment of social situations, and our feelings of safety and trust in intimate ones.

 

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6 Sensuous Steps to Speak With Your Touch (Lucidity Festival Blog)

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6 Sensuous Steps to Speak With Your Touch (Lucidity Festival Blog)

We’ve all seen it or imagined it: the man or woman who is supremely confident in their ability to embrace their lover and see them immediately surrender and open. It’s as if they were able to silently communicate their desires so powerfully that their lover was instantly seduced, as if under a spell. In many ways, you are right: this person is in fact able to speak to their lover in a way that is much deeper than with any words: they are speaking with their body.

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PODCAST: The Burning Man Relationship Survival Guide (EntheoNation)

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PODCAST: The Burning Man Relationship Survival Guide (EntheoNation)

Philippe Lewis, the Exquisite Lover, is a Sex & Intimacy Coach, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Trained Somatica Practitioner, and Epic Event Producer. For the last 18 years, he has been exploring relationships, intimacy, sensuality and sexuality with individuals and communities through teaching, writing, coaching and (sexy) events with the goal of growing men and women into better lovers and better humans. A Burner since 1998, Philippe shares veteran advice on being fully prepared for epic play on the Playa, and getting the most transformation out of transformational festivals for yourself as well as for your intimate relationships.

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